Searching for the right one – Travails of a transition phase

I guess it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out what this post would be about.

Right now I am on my way from the bliss of bachelorhood to the monotony of matrimony. This transition phase is very very VERY interesting, indeed!
The most interesting part is when your semi-traditional, semi-modern parents ask you to look at a bunch of online matrimony profiles and seek your opinion.

Here are a couple of examples ( I am restricting them to only 2 because all of us have read quite a lot of forwarded e-mails in this regard)

This girl, S begins by proclaiming ‘I am born to Party” what? Hey this is not Orkut or Myspace.. Then she goes on to enlighten us with this piece of info –“There is nothing much to talk about me ”... Then quickly adds, “This platform is not enough to describe me!!” If there is nothing much to talk about you, then how come this platform(sic) is not enough?!??! D-uhhh...

Profiles created by parents are equally enlightening.

They usually begin like, “We are looking for a suitable alliance for our daughter...” And ... And... It ends there!! What? Do you think the rest of us are looking for onions and tomatoes here?

God! Everyone is looking for a suitable alliance for their loved ones. What differentiates your daughter is what you should be putting there, madam.. But I guess even that profile would have got atleast 113 "Express interests" by now.. There might be guys who would express their interest if they just know the gender of the person to be female, all other things (including the species!) do not seem important.

Nowadays, it seems girls have become a rarity. This skewed up demand and supply ratio is really hurting us, the Guys. During my MBA, I used to be a fan of Economics and lapped up all the economics related lectures. I loved the subject.. But the ‘Demand and Supply’ cliché has been blurted out to me innumerable number of times by all and sundry, that now I kinda hate economics..

Appa says ”Demand for girls is more and the girls are playing the waiting game” What???

Mama, “Girls have become a rare commodity”... mkum!!!

“The opportunity costs for the guys are more than for the girls nowadays” – My best friend. Yei summa etho sollanumnu sollaatheengada..

Another Best friend, “Nowadays, guys should constantly work on improving their comparative advantage in order to appeal to girls”... Dei, uthai vaanguveenga!

I wanna punch Adam Smith in his eye, because now I hold him responsible for all this.

Being born into a South Indian, Hindu, Tamil, Brahmin, Iyengar, family has had its advantages. Not the least are emphasis on education, cleanliness, vegetarianism, tee-totalling etc. Also add to it the wonderfully profound religious philosophy that trickles down to the next generation with ease. Had I been born anywhere else, I might have easily gone astray. So I do thank my roots for having made me whatever little I am.

Belonging to such a niche community, also has its disadvantages, especially in the marital front. Having a taste like a connoisseur doesn’t help either!


PS: This view is from a guy’s perspective. No offense meant to anyone. I am sure there would be girls out there who might feel the exact opposite way. I empathise with you and I have one suggestion, “Try improving your comparative advantage!!!” :-)